In today’s world there seems to be a growing trend in how people perceive themselves and others.
Take for instance when you meet a new person in one of your classes. Maybe it’s a pretty girl or a charming boy who you would really like to see again for something other than your studies.Instantly, almost like a natural reflex, you will jump onto your smart- phone or laptop and eagerly begin searching for them through Facebook or Twitter, trying to figure out their likes, dislikes and most importantly, their “Relationship Status.”
As young adults in the 21st century, we rely on technology to bring us anything and everything we need to know, as well as what we want others to know about us.
I can’t even begin to recall how many times I have updated my Facebook “About Me” to say what I want others to know about me.
Sad as it may be, I feel like my Facebook page has become a part of who I define myself to be.
I have 482 friends on Facebook. I know each of them personally and care about each of them on some level.
But, with the amount of care I bestow upon each of them, I have found a frightening trend among a select group.
It seems that many of my friends have pushed the limit on what is appropriate in a social forum.
While we could discuss for days things like inappropriate language and suggestive photos, I have found a much more detrimental habit developing.
I recently had a friend post something about her recent breakup.She was obviously hurt and was looking for support from her digital community of friends. Lashing out mercilessly against the young man, it was apparent that she was still passing through the irrational phase and had yet come to peace with the situation.
Her anger was apparent and she later admitted to me in person, a bit embarrassing as well.
As social media becomes more of a part of our everyday life, some are finding it difficult to define the line of what is worth sharing and what is better left to ourselves.
Moments of strong emotions turn into a public discussion and at times bring on unwanted attention.
To feel the need to Tweet or post a status about feelings or events is a sure sign of a deeper problem.
As badly as you want everyone to understand that you are upset or even especially happy, there must be some definition of what is “status-worthy.”
So, I urge everyone to give a second thought to the next time you post something online for others to see.
Also, remember that as strong as you may feel about an event or circumstance it is no reason to tarnish what could be a positive representation of who you are.
Because, let’s face it; what you post online will be what others use to define you whether you think so or not. You may want to keep it to yourself.
Tue, October 9, 2012
by Becky Hutchinson